Ashley Needles

As I try to become a better blogger I've been reading other people's blogs and I am honored that someone who's blogs have fascinated me was willing to do a guest post here. Since I've been short on time as a new mom I am seeking out guest bloggers to keep up with the messages of inspiration and keep my blog active with interesting posts stories and advice. Kadete has honored me with the poem and message below! For more here's a link to  Kadete 's blog https://dwkadete.blogspot.com In this life sometimes it’s hard to appreciate what makes us happy.It is also not easy to appreciate what we feel inside and let it out.It is our nature, it’s every one’s natural way of self expression.Conquer that fear,free yourself.Let your energy out. Here is an amazing poem to remind you of your natural beauty inside you and outside in nature. TRUST IN THE NATURE OF YOUR SMILE It’s beautiful outside,but sad inside, It’s tears in the eyes but nature is happy inside, It’s hot outside...

At last, it was time to stop for the night. The hotel was the cheapest we could find.  Angie excited to be with her dad jumped from one bed to the next. I would be sleeping on the floor tonight. Alice was running out of pills and her anxiety was climbing. She and Angie would be taking the beds.    A knock came, the hotel clerk delivering the extra room cards I'd requested. Angie dived into hiding. Alex gently convinced her to come out. Angie had been forced to hide for months. From neighbors, from cops, from the sun, and the carefree existence of childhood. My heart ached for her.  The trauma of the last few months and the excitement of being with her dad finally took its toll and she fell into a deep sleep.  At last, I could ask Alex about what happened at the courthouse.  Angie's grandmother accused Alex of vile perverted acts begging the court not to return Angie to her father. Angie's social worker took the stand denying the false claims and insisted it...

 Growing up in Utah, I had classes broaching subjects like episiotomies, lamaze, and more. Needless to say while I didn't want kids, I had my birth plan ready to the letter all the i's dotted and t's crossed. I planned a relaxed at home delivery with my birth partner in a tub of purified water, dim lights and the sounds of the ocean playing over a pre recorded sound track of my heart beat. I wanted erotic stimulation if labor stalled. I wanted delayed cord clamping and UV lights on the ready with an infant eye mask.  With Res out of the picture, some of that obviously went out the window. As my due date came and went, my pre labor continued. Two weeks of contractions starting and stopping. Alone in a hotel room (chosen for its location relative to a hospital with a level five NICU and not for the black mold growing inside the bathroom or drug addicts in the hallways or gun shots down the street) I kept asking myself how I was going to do this. How was I ...

 Your father and I weren't expecting you. You were the life change neither of us planned on. The best things in life sometimes happen that way.  My sweet child, let life surprise you and be glad for all the twists and bends and all the things that don't turn out exactly the way you plan. Predictable is boring. As your mother, I want to give you everything. I want to be the perfect mom you deserve. Unfortunately my little one, I am still very human. I'm going to make mistakes and mess up, but I will always do my best. In life that's all anyone can do.  I hope you allow yourself the gift of failure. Failure is the stepping stone to success. Celebrate your failures. Without failure, life would be boring. The most difficult circumstances are the most interesting.  Those who endure difficulty with passionate perseverence are the most fascinating villains, heroes, and people. If you can be positive during difficulties you're already on your way to overcoming any problem....

Being pregnant, I've noticed something, everyone and I mean everyone tells my partner what to do for me. "Rub her feet," "Rub her back," "Make her take it easy," etc. and while I have to say I'm a huge fan of massages and putting my feet up, and all this advice is well intentioned, people don't know my partner.  Res tries to give me massages but ninety nine percent of the time his hands are cut up from being a mechanic, electrician, plumber and more. He works himself to the bone in bitter cold and blistering heat and when people tell him all the things they think he should be doing for me, that he just can't, he feels like crap.  He is doing more than one person should ever have to do. To me, he is a super hero without the tacky cape. Today he worked on his sister's car, his grandfather's van, and a truck to sell for some extra cash to feed and cloth our baby, then he did a mountain of dishes by hand.  While I've cooked a few th...

My life is really good right now, and while I work to meet my goals of increasing my income and becoming a great author, I'm happy. Happy is an amazing way to live yet some people believe they will only be happy if: If they have a relationship, if they lose weight, if they get a better job, etc. There are so many excuses people give for not being happy. Some of which are legitimate i.e. abnormal circumstances, but most people make the choices that create or continue their unhappiness. They choose to stay with a job they hate, they choose to stay in a marriage that sucks the life out of them, they choose to watch CSI and Criminal Minds, and drink too much alcohol or otherwise pollute their bodies and minds with depressing things. (As someone prone to depression I can attest to how much tv shows affect mood, life, and mindset.) Learning to confront depression head-on has been an incredible journey. (Something that should be taught in every high school so kids don't end up ...

 What you eat while you're pregnant affects not just your baby but your grandchildren and great-grandchildren! Wondering what you can do to give your baby pink hair? I have no idea... beets maybe? ;)  While I may not be able to help you out on that one I have a few tips that can help your pregnancy produce a baby that doesn't turn into a super crazy teenager!  To prevent depression start with quercetin, add in some DHA, EPA, and L-Methylfolate, not just to prevent spinal bifida but to increase IQ and prevent other neural tube defects. If you want to go a step further and prevent a child from being born with a brain primed for anxiety and OCD disorders add in some magnesium L-threonate, magnesium glycinate, and magnesium Taurate.  In people with the gene CACNA1C, their brain cells can't properly control the intake of calcium and it attacks their neurons unless of course, you provide your baby with a nutritional modifier for the intake. Calcium and ...