The Divorce Advice I Needed and The Biggest Lie.
In one of my support groups, a woman posted about her ex giving her a guilt trip because the government gave his tax return to her for the back child support he owed. Lately, as in for the last five years, I've been getting guilt trips because I've been fighting for what's legally mine. Those guilt trips tied my stomach in painful knots. Seeing her post I gave her some advice. The exact advice I've been needing to hear. "You have to fight for what's yours in this world! There are going to be people telling you "You don't deserve it," trying to make you feel guilty or small, but you can't listen to that or let it get in your head. Hold your head high, because you're fighting for what belongs to you!" Though in that case I wrote, "belongs to your kid," but I adapted it for me. My next piece of advice one I've been giving just myself for several years now is, "When it comes to divorce or relationships the last t...