Ashley Needles

So as my video (about not dating single dads) was uploading yesterday, I took Messy on a walk, during which we met a HOT single dad , his six-year-old daughter and their dog. As we talked he learned I'm nomadic, child-free and he still asked for my number... I hesitated but gave him the digits. Suspecting he isn't looking to settle down or for anything serious... My thoughts, it might be fun for a bit, maybe he'll be interesting, maybe I'll learn something through dating him... Suddenly today I realized the oddity in how I view dating compared to most people. I have no hope or expectations of long term. And maybe that's why my relationships are fleeting but deliciously sweet because I don't feel bitterness when things inevitably end. Or maybe my relationships have the shelf life of a ripe banana because as we parted ways I noticed a text from the guy who thinks I walk on water but lives 2 hours away... telling me to call him and so before I was even out of ear...

Dear Ashley, We have a lot of work to do. Let's make this year amazing! First, though you need to stop ruminating and get some sleep! I know you have a certain relationship in your head you're obsessing on how to fix it while also questioning if you should just discard it and move on. You've done more than enough for now and you need to just let things lie. If the other person decides you're the kind of awesome necessary to have in life then that person will figure out what they need to do to measure up to what is required to be your friend. You are always so damn hard on yourself when it comes to relationships that you seldom ever seem to let yourself just enjoy the time you get with people you care about. I know Art's death is a large part of that and so you want to make certain you never again leave things badly with another, but hun lately you've been going to extremes and it isn't good for you. You are making your...