Why would anyone deliberately provoke a known abuser? Well, he wanted to talk and after six years of trying to get a divorce I wanted to know if that was a healthy productive option, so I gave some helpful advice that the person I once knew would respond to with extreme rage because it brought up not so great actions on his part. Here's what I said that began the onslaught of email abuse: "If you want to save your relationship with P. whom you committed bigamy for, then trying to speak to me is a bad idea." I meant: "obviously you love her enough to commit an international felony so please stop asking me to talk so you can save that relationship," but I stated it in a way that didn't romanticize the facts. I was sincerely trying to be helpful but I also wanted to know if talking to this person would be healthy or not at this point. With an abuser, anything can set them off. Was he still an abuser? I needed to know. By doin...
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