Let me first give an anonymous thanks to the person who inspired this blog! You ROCK! You recently wrote a comment on my facebook page, "I decided mlm's are inherently disingenuous and beneath me. Little guys never become big guys with out selling a physical product and not even then. Check out sendoutcards. It's a excellent product but the little guy never gets rich."
Let's delve into this shall we? MLM's can absolutely be run by disingenuous people but I doubt the founders of Walmart, Amazon or McDonalds know my name or care if I get crushed by a truck on the highway. By such standard a lot of companies are disingenuous and beneath your standards. That's okay.
It isn't the least bit ridiculous to want an entire company to care! Sadly, we don't live in an ideal world so expecting it requires living outside of reality. I think what you saying is you were burned badly by a sponsor or maybe several sponsors and your feelings are completely valid. That's something that has happened to a lot of people. I just hope you will remember, there are leaders who do care and who are doing their absolute best to help their downline.
In every industry there are bad people who only care about themselves and good people who try and fail to do everything for everyone around them. Then there's well my experience. I was somewhere in between the good, the bad, and the ugly of MLM.
If you don't know what MLM is, you may know it by another name Multi Level Marketing or Network Marketing.
For me, 'having while not actually having' (that's a whole other blog) a lot of money made me a bit ignorant and extremely blind. It wasn't willful or intentional, it just happened as I was going through so much in my personal life behind closed doors that I stopped seeing the world clearly.
In my defense, anyone going through trauma or major life changes experiences a bit of cognitive blindness, looking back though, I was in a major bubble.
I know I've said it before, but let me say it again. I'm sorry to anyone I hurt during that time. If I made you feel like you just weren't working hard enough, or just didn't have the right mindset, I'm sorry. Many of you were dealing with major challenges and doing your absolute best and it wasn't working.
You aren't failures. Empower Network and the leaders there failed you.
What I've learned since my time with EN is sometimes people can work super hard, do their best with a great mindset and still end up starving half to death because they can't afford food. This is the case for many ex cons and others in our society sadly.
Back to the topic, can the little guy ever become "THE BIG MAN"? Before my answer would have been something ridiculous like, "Of course, if you just try hard enough." While David Wood pretended that making money was easy, it was in reality a ton of work in the beginning.
It isn't just work though. Enough work isn't going to get you there and yes you do need a positive mindset and a strong belief in your ability to succeed, but there's still more and I'm going reverse engineer it for you!
What really changed the game for David and I?
10. TESTIMONIALS / SOCIAL PROOF
David started having a little bit of success with MLSP (My Lead System Pro) and the leaders of the company elevated him, asking him to do a presentation to help new members. This is where the lightning happened. David promised a free tutorial to help people in exchange for social proofs. People had to elevate him to get their "free" tutorial.
What can you do to help others that will make them want to elevate you? What knowledge or skill can you offer that will make people WANT to tell others how you helped them? Helping others is the key to gaining leverage and becoming "THE BIG MAN/ OR WOMAN."
9. A SPECIAL SKILL OR KNOWLEDGE
So many people have the false idea that leaders are natural born or that you're either good or bad at sales. These are false beliefs I was guilty of holding for a long time. You have to learn and grow. We all start small. I've watched my daughter go from a helpless infant to learning how to feed herself, walk, and talk, but it is more than that. Babies can't even find their mouths at first and in learning to feed themselves they accidentally bite their fingers, lips, cheeks. If you don't have a special skill or knowledge, you can develop one. It may not be easy but it will be worth it!
You can become an expert. What is one thing you are interested in and you want to learn? Pull out your library card and get started! Even if it is dog grooming YOU WILL HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER!
8. DETERMINATION
What are you thinking about before you drift off to sleep? Whatever you are thinking about before you go to sleep will determine your actions the next day. If you are imagining your success, if you are thinking about the ways you can help others, if you are creating the feelings and visions of success you will be motivated to take positive actions to achieve those goals!
You can either imagine winning PCH, and waste your days gaining as many entries as possible for the slim hope of success or you can work on an actionable plan. (More on that later... another day, another blog)
7. BURN THE PANCAKES
There's a reason cooks throw out their first pancake. There isn't a chef who hasn't cut themselves with a knife or burned themselves on a n oven. You are going to get rejected, you are going to make mistakes. In leadership y our words are your chef kit. You are going to say the wrong things! Get good at failing to get great at succeeding!
If you want to lead, you have to be learning! You will learn more from your mistakes than your successes. Truth is often cliché! Accept yourself. Take joy in discovering all the ways you can fall on your face. Laugh at yourself and treasure these moments in writing so you will have notes you can use to mentor your team later!
6. PRACTICE BURNING THE PANCAKES
Practice dealing with rejections before you sale. Practice letting it roll off your back and letting yourself be happy regardless. Practice loving those who reject you today, they may be a great friend or customer tomorrow! Get in front of your mirror and sell yourself! Reject the sale. Repeat until you can't think of a single objection and start over!
5. GRAND OBJECTIVE
What is your aim in life? What is your aim in business? My aim with Network Marketing is to help those who like me are torn between providing and being with their kids and to help them successfully do both, and give opportunities to the unemployable be it ADHD or a criminal record or some other nonsense that has gotten in their way.
I don't want to recruit everyone on the planet. I don't even want to recruit most the people I know.
Most people don't have a desire for freedom and wealth stronger than their need to watch the next episode of a TV show. I know, before my daughter was born, that was me. As long as my bills were paid I didn't dare move out of my comfort zones.
Also, I don't want the blame when someone fails. So many people got hurt by Empower Network. I can't bear to see that again. I only want to someone to join my business if it will really help them and if they will put in the effort to succeed. It doesn't even cost a dime to start! I just don't want anyone to believe they are a failure because I didn't have the power to help them succeed!
4. PERSONAL DESIRE
What do you want? Not what are you supposed to want, not I want this because I don't want that, but WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND HOW BADLY DO YOU WANT IT? You don't have to be successful to be happy. You don't have to be a big shot to be happy. If you want to be "THE BIG MAN" you need to know what you truly want and allow yourself to go for it, What you want may have nothing to do with business or being "The Big Man or Woman." Give yourself permission to be happy and pursue your TRUE happiness.
Remember getting what you want and having desires doesn't make you selfish, it makes you human. Allow yourself to be human. By freeing yourself of the shame our society has for people doing things for themselves like plastic surgery, (I've certainly thought about getting some implants for bikini's sake!) you free yourself to do the things that will help you get there and you inherently give others permission to live their bliss.
3. LET GO
You don't have to forgive, which means "to give as before the offense."
(I'm against forgiveness in general.) If we forgive repeat abusers, we will continually be abused.
Don't forgive but let go of the pain and the hate. It isn't about them, it's about you.
If you want to succeed in a big way it takes a lot of energy and you don't have room in your suitcase to carry around the baggage of your past with you.
Cry, use a punching bag, go for a long run. Do whatever it takes until you are ready to open your heart back up.
Yes, there are plenty of "BIG MEN" AND WOMEN out there with hard cold hearts spreading pain every where they go.
You don't have to be among them. I know life is hard. There is enough pain in this world to sink a ship the size of Jupiter. You aren't alone. I know you're hurt. We all are. The answer isn't shutting everyone out, it's focusing on letting the right people in.
Sure you could use McDonalds or a gym to become a "BIG MAN" but wouldn't you rather use sensitivity, compassion, connection and gain the admiration of others through the gentleness of your character? Keanu Reeves, Fabio, Tom Hanks, Oprah Winfrey, and J.K. Rowling are examples of how a good heart and gentleness have gained great acclaim.
2. SELF AWARENESS
(When I was dealing with the insanity of EN collapsing and getting death threats and hacks, I played PCH like my life depended on it. After my sister died, I think my sanity did!)
It's okay if you aren't ready to step up to the plate yet and give life all you've got to give. Now may not be the right time for you. That's okay! Take care of yourself first!
1. A GIANT DREAM
Do you want to speak in front of thousands? Do you want people to tell you how thankful they are they met you because you changed their lives for the better? Do you want to give people hope make their eyes light up with the power of possibility? Do you want to give your family vacations all over the world? When your dreams are bigger than yourself, that's when the world begins to change.
If you want to do all that, you need to read How to Master the Art of Selling and Magnetic Content for Network Marketers!
ARE YOU READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP?
It's FREE to start! Get your feet wet! See if this is for you before spending a dime!
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